When your baby won’t breastfeed, it can be upsetting and confusing, but there are many reasons this might happen, and most of them are temporary and manageable with the right approach. A baby may refuse to nurse due to issues like a shallow latch, an uncomfortable feeding position, engorged breasts that are difficult to latch onto, or even a recent change in routine or environment. Sometimes, babies experience a “nursing strike,” where they suddenly refuse to breastfeed despite previously feeding well—this can be triggered by teething, illness, overstimulation, a strong letdown, or even a reaction to a new smell (like perfume or deodorant) on the parent.
The first step is to stay calm and not force your baby onto the breast, as pressure can create more resistance. Instead, offer skin-to-skin contact frequently, which helps calm both baby and parent and may naturally encourage rooting and feeding. Try feeding in a quiet, dimly lit space with minimal distractions, and experiment with different positions to find one that’s more comfortable. Expressing a little milk before latching can help soften the breast if it’s engorged, making it easier for your baby to latch on. Offering the breast when your baby is sleepy or just waking up may also reduce resistance, as they’re often more relaxed at these times.
If your baby continues to refuse the breast, it’s important to ensure they’re still getting enough nourishment—offering expressed breastmilk by spoon, syringe, or bottle can help maintain nutrition and your milk supply. It’s also crucial to monitor wet and dirty nappies and weight gain, and seek support from a lactation consultant, midwife, or health visitor who can assess latch, positioning, and rule out issues like tongue-tie or oral thrush. In most cases, with gentle persistence and support, breastfeeding can be reestablished successfully. The key is to remain patient, responsive to your baby’s cues, and open to professional guidance.
